Monday, January 12, 2015

TLC's "My Husband's Not Gay" stirs controversy but seems to have aired only once



I missed the TLC one-hour documentary “My Husband’s Not Gay”, and apparently right now there is no way to see it, and TLC seems not to have plans to show it again, as far as we know.  It was to be a series, and was downgraded to a docu-special.  It could be shown as an independent film and made viewable on Amazon Prime or Netflix. But the very concept seems offensive to many people.  This almost sounds like “The Interview” in reverse. 
  
The film was apparently shot in Salt Lake City and centers around Mormon families where the husband admits to some same-sex attractions but also claims interest in women – bisexuality.  To appease the LDS faith (which is slowly becoming more tolerant, at last) the men say they will deny same-sex feeling and be devoted to their wives and have children and raise them in marriage.
Of course, there is a lot of controversy about the film.  The one minute trailer shows men engaging in double-talk.  “I’m attracted to me but I’m not attracted to – men”. 
  
MSNBC has a twelve minute panel discussion on “Out There” with Judy Gold, Husdon Taylor, and Carmen Carrera.
  
  
The Rubin Report has a 9-minute video here.
  
Think Progress has a long article by Zazk Ford, saying that the special is worth watching, here
  
There follows a long discussion of immutability. 
  
ABC News also has a video for Nightline, 7 minutes, here (from Fusion with Elysia Menendez).   The husband says that his marriage is like “being on a diet” where he gives up fantasies of men when with his wife.  50% of "Mixed-orientaiton marriages" end in divorce. 
 
Meredith Vieira presented the issue on her syndicated show Monday January 12 and interviewed on of the Mormon husbands in the film. 
   
Change.org is reported to have a petition against showing the film.

It seems that the pressure on gay or bisexual men to marry and procreate anyway really is intended to make heterosexual men feel righteous and comfortable in their own marriages, knowing nobody "gets out of things", as my Mother used to phrase it.  

If it becomes available online legally, I’ll watch it and review it as a film or TV episode. 

Wikipedia attribution link for Salt Lake downtown

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