Saturday, May 12, 2012
Romney urged to play same-sex marriage card; CNN reports that California will vote on banning reparative therapy
CNN is now reporting that Santorum told Romney, “Use same-sex marriage as a weapon”.
Friday, Romney touched on same-sex marriage in a speech at Jerry Falwell’s Liberty University in Lynchburg, VA. Even so, CNN reports that the LDS church is now at least saying that gays should not be discriminated against in employment and housing as a group. Fox has a story on Romney’s speech here. The New York Times has a story here.
CNN also reported on an upcoming vote Tuesday in the California legislature on whether to ban reparative therapy, advocated by the so-called “ex-gay” movement. Saturday, CNN presented to story of Ryan Kendall, who was forced by his parents to undergo reparative therapy given by NARTH. CNN presented Joseph Nicolosi (book review here on Jan. 21, 2009 in books blog) and Reekers.
All of this sharpens some pencils for me. I don’t personally have a problem with maintaining the traditional meaning of the word “marriage” as a dictionary matter. But I do care about the effect of “family values” on those who live outside the world of conventional marriage, and the attitude that some families believe they are entitled to the tribal or biological loyalty of “everyone”, and that the marriages of parents need this loyalty.
A lot of my own experience revolves around the idea of “upward affiliation”, and accomplishing something by supporting “virtue”. I can imagine that had I grown up with the value of personal lineage imprinted on my motives, I still could have experienced “upward affiliation” in a heterosexual context, and demand that a female partner be “perfect” so that I would have “perfect” children (not medically sound). It sounds as though the “family values” crowd is concerned about the idea that every person adopt the purposes of the family as his own, which is a concept that digs deeper than just sexual orientation. But it does address the question of the need of others for someone like me to find passion in previously uninvited situations.
Friday night, at Cobalt 30 Degrees in Washington, was packed as before, and pretty wild by about 1 AM or so.