Sunday, June 30, 2013

CA gay marriage challenged already; debate takes on existential nature

As I watched the drag show at Town DC last night, buzz spread on the floor about a CNN story that “conservatives” had filed a motion to undo the Ninth Circuit’s lifting on the stay on same-sex marriages in California, in the wake of the Supreme Court decision Wednesday, story by Greg Bothelho here
The crowds was typically festive, with a birthday dance contest (three rounds, by audience voice applause vote), and the playing of “Nine to Five” in one of the drag dances.  Apparently someone at Town had seen the film “Inequality for All” at AFI Docs last weekend (movies blog, June 23), where the theme song from the 1980 comedy is used during the credits.

On Fareed Zakaria today, Andrew Sullivan appeared, in order to comment on the Court’s action last week.  He said that freedom requires that we “tolerate the intolerant” and not throw back buzzwords (like “bigot”) in their faces.
Again, how does this whole debate go?  Society needs to get certain things done (raising the next generation, taking care of the old one).  It doesn’t like distractions or complications.  If you offer full equality for gays in everything (overcoming the “ick factor” as explained by actor Georg Takei on p B5 of the Washington Post Sunday June 30, link)  it’s arguably more “complicated” to offer an optimum intimate environment for raising children in a socializing environment.  If you don’t, you can leave gays alone with “privacy” (as we learned to do gradually during the past forty years), but inevitably you have to demand interpersonal sacrifices from them like everyone else – living in any community requires unpredictable sacrifices.  Without legal recognition of their rights and relationships, they (or “we”) are much more affected when tough times come – we go to the back of the line.  It’s about a lot more than equal benefits for couples – although the point of the shaming of the children of gay couples., as Justice Kennedy noted, is very well taken.

Above: last night’s festivities. 
Bottom: Palm Springs, CA, 2012

Update: July 1

The Supreme Court is reported to have turned down a request to intervene in the Ninth Circuit's lifting of its stay.  

Saturday, June 29, 2013

Recalling "The Boys in the Band: and the how much times have changed since "Before Stonewall"

In picking something for my movie’s blog, Netflix popped up “Making the Boys” today, and I had totally forgotten that I had seen it at the West End in early 2011 with a QA, until I saw the stage accounts mentioning Barbara Walter’s apartment, and recognized the elder Mart Crowley. This refers to the 1968 play and 1970 film, "The Boys in the Band", even them a tribute to immutability. 

Nevertheless, rewatching the 2011 meta-documentary film in Instant Play, with its account of life before Stonewall (and then an account of Stonewall itself), reminded me of how far we have come since my coming of age. Times have changed, and change has accelerated, just like in calculus class.  In the early 1960s, many people in the general public viewed homosexuality as more dangerous to society than adultery or prostitution.  Why this would have been the case sounds like a mystery now – unless you’re dedicated to demanding an investment in procreation or other generations from everyone, no matter what, and believe everyone must “pay his dues” no matter what.  That was the moral thinking of my own upbringing.

Director Crayton Robey unearthed a lot of 1950’s era anti-homosexual propaganda film (in black and white) put out by the old LAPD, as well as clips from the horrible CBS special in 1967 by Mike Wallace, “The Homosexuals”.  I’ve seen Robey’s other documentary, “When Ocean Meets Sky” (2003), about Fire Island Pines and Cherry Grove, on Logo. 

As I explained Thursday on the Books blog, I saw ending the military ban as more critical than gay marriage, back in the mid 1990s when I wrote my first “Do Ask Do Tell” book. I’m a bit surprised, even in retrospect, how quickly and suddenly the progress on marriage equality has come down.

Is it possible that another lawsuit could challenge the right of states to ban gay marriage?  Could it work?  Could Marshall-Newman come down?
Remember, the “marriage penalty” can now also apply to gay couples. 

And the next big social issue may be filial responsibility laws, as the population ages.  This can certainly affect the childless disproportionately.

By the way, I watched another film, a “gay sci-fi” film.  Review coming tomorrow.  There are some undervalued actors out there.  Not everybody in Tinseltown is rich.  

The Stonewall Inn now has regular shows upstairs.  

Thursday, June 27, 2013

Does the debate shift from gay marriage to discrimination against singles in general?

The Wokblog feature of the Washington Post has a detailed article “The case for cutting the link between taxes and marriage”, by Dylan Matthews, link here

I like the metaphor that marriage-related tax policy is like throwing money our out of a chopper – it can hit the wrong people. 

The article gives numerous examples where marriage can work against the tax filer (the “marriage penalty”, which can now apply to legally married gays), but in general the question concerns discrimination against singles.

There is a “social capital” question, too.  A society where social and familial ties are weaker may have a harder time sustaining itself against adversity from without.  Jonathan Rauch used to argue, back in the 1990s, that the singleton is an accident waiting to happen.

While we like to think about marriage for love and romance, the fact is that having a family (starting with a dedicated spouse) can make adapting to hard times easier.  We don’t like to admit that, in a world of individualism, creativity, and psychological surplus (in “Rosenfels” terms).

But the emphasis, in societal concern about the development of the individual, shifts from performance of gender-based roles (often focused around the ability to have children) to a more general idea of polarity and complementarity – and the ability to sustain an intimate relationship indefinitely when challenged.  Same-sex couples can still raise children and take care of dependent or elderly family members.  They can still “step up”.  A recent episode of “Days of our Lives” when the gay character Sonny helps a woman deliver a baby in the woods, when they have escaped from a criminal, makes the case. 

Wednesday, June 26, 2013

Supreme Court strikes down ("most" of) DOMA; In Proposition 8, Hollingsworth did not have standing to defend law

On Wednesday, June 26, 2013, the Supreme Court, with a majority opinion written by Justice Anthony Kennedy, has struck down the last provision (Section 3) of the Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA), signed by President Clinton in 1996.
The ruling appears to be based on the Equal Protection Clause.
That would mean that the federal government cannot refuse to pay spousal benefits to same-sex partners in a state that recognizes the relationship just because other states might not have;  in a sense, federal obligations can be affected by state actions in our system of federalism.
Kennedy apparently wrote that DOMA demeaned gay people and their relationships.

The second part of the DOMA act, that states do not have to recognize same-sex marriages of other states, was left intact. It was the third portion (federal recognition and benefits) that was struck down. (See Wikipedia here.)
Edith Windsor will get her extra tax back.
But some of the benefits affected by DOMA had been non-financial. Now the military will be required to notify same-sex partners (if married in state of origin) after death or casualty during deployment.  
CNN’s coverage (changing rapidly) is here

The Supreme Court slip opinion (5-4) on United States v. Windsor is here. Note that the SCOTUS wenbsite moves or renames the url's for slip opinions once they are filed.  

The opinion will obviously be important to military same-sex couples, and to immigration of couples from countries recognizing same-sex marriage. 

In Hollingsworth v. Perry (Proposition 8 in California), Justice Roberts wrote the majority opinion in a mixed 5-4 decision.  The decision holds that Hollingsworth had no right or standing to be in court defending the law.   That also means that the Ninth Circuit did not have jurisdiction.  That means that the trial court in California had the only jurisdiction. The slip opinion is here
It is not clear that same-sex marriage is legal right now in California but it may well be.  This may become a political question again.  Stay tuned for updates. 

Jeffrey Toobin at CNN suggests that the legal landscape is reminiscent of Loving in Virginia in 1967.  The legal climate invites a federal lawsuit to declare state laws banning same-sex marriage unconstitutional under the way the 14th Amendment might be extended.  

Update: June 28

The Ninth Circuit has lifted the stay, and same-sex marriages can resume almost immediately in California. 

Tuesday, June 25, 2013

Interview question on gay marriage cases; bizarre action on VA "crimes against nature" law

I was invited by the Rosern Group to submit interview questions to Larry Bodine of about the upcoming Supreme Court cases involving gay marriage, which may well be rules on Wednesday morning.
"Can you name some practical ways marriage equality affects single people, people not even in relationships right now?"   

 “There may be a marriage in your future – your own.  According to the Census Bureau 55% of Americans have been married at one point in their lives, and only 30% of Americans have never been married. You may be single now and not in a relationship, but chances are, the notion of a formally-recognized monogamous relationship is on the horizon.

“ Beyond emotional support, economic stability and companionship, marriage conveys many legal rights. Married people get a tax breaks with joint filing and exemption from federal estate taxes. They can include a spouse in workplace health insurance, veteran’s benefits and social security. If a married person dies without a will, state laws usually give the surviving spouse most or all of the deceased person's estate. A hospital must allow you to visit your sick or injured spouse. Marriage to a U.S. citizen makes foreigners eligible for a green card.

“ There are 130,000 legally-married couples are in same-sex marriages nationwide. So far only 12 states recognize same-sex marriage. The right to marry is not in the US Constitution, but the US Supreme Court has in at least 14 cases since 1888 ruled that marriage is a fundamental right.

 “That’s why the world is watching what the Supreme Court will do in two gay rights cases. One involves the Defense of Marriage Act, which cuts off couples in same-sex marriages from tax deductions, employment benefits, veteran’s benefits and immigration rights. It that case a legally-marriage lesbian had to pay $363,000 in federal estate taxes because the IRS denied her the marital deduction.

“The other case involves Prop. 8, a constitutional amendment enacted by voters in California. It bans same-sex marriage and creates a stigma that gays and lesbians are less worthy and not equal under the law. Gays can form a domestic partnership, which is a lesser, unequal version of marriage.

 “The Supreme Court will issue its rulings this week and you can read about them on at”

I take Mr. Bodine’s answer to mean that marriage (you love someone permanently, and he or she loves you back) ought to be in the sights of everyone, and it is not necessarily wrong if “singles” sometimes experience and expectation to defer or sacrifice for families (with children or dependents), as long as every adult can marry one consenting or agreeing adult of choice. 

There is another important story in the Washington Post by Laura Vozella, that Virginia Attorney General Ken Cuccinelli has filed an appeal to the U.S. Supreme Court aimed at preserving Virginia’s sodomy laws, which apply also to heterosexuals (unlike Lawrence v. Texas (2003), more like Bowers v. Hardwick (1986).  Cuccinelli claims that he wants to use the laws only against “sexual predators” or in crimes against minors (age of consent in Virginia is 18).  The link is here.

Monday, June 24, 2013

As Pentagon prepares for Pride, NYTimes reports on sexual assaults on males in military

Shortly after the gay media proudly announced that new Defense Secretary Chuck Hagel will speak at the Pentagon’s pride meeting, the New York Times runs a story by James Dao, “When victims of military sex assaults are men”, link here. Women are much more likely to be victims, but there are fewer of them.  Quantitatively, there are more “attacks” against men, according to the article.
The Washington Times (previously snarky on the subject) has a front page article by Rowan Scarborough, “Military gives a salute to Gay Pride Month: Messages sent to commands”, link here. TWT reports that the Pentagon will offer military ID cards to same-sex partners on Sept. 1. 

I was “propositioned” once in Basic training at Fort Jackson in 1968, near the end of BCT, after I had gotten out of Special Training Company (as I recall).   It was obviously an exercise of power and control.  The rebuffed the advance, and it went away.  Had the person pursued it, I would have been blamed.  There were a couple of whimsical advances at Fort Eustis in the old eyebrow barracks building in 1969.  But about a month before I was to get out, the second in command of my unit (a full colonel) called me in an made an advance, putting a hand on the thigh.   He was happily married with kids.  They always are.  

Thursday, June 20, 2013

Chambers apologizes, but is Exodus International really closing?

According to many media outlets, Exodus International, supposedly the world’s most notorious reparative therapy advocating organization, is shutting down.

Okay. I just looked at the site and come away with no such impression.
But Huffington Post is reporting that  EI chief Alan Chambers, who himself got married to a woman but admits to gay feelings, has said that Exodus International is shutting down, story link here

Chambers has made a somewhat ambiguous apology, and will be interviewed by Anderson Cooper Friday night on AC360. He says "We're sorry", sounding like Scarlet in "Gone with the Wind".  
There will also be more about this on Oprah’s OWN network tonight, I understand.
Right now, it’s a little difficult to pin down exactly what Chambers is saying,  Bu the has reportedly admitted that his group and worldview “lost the culture war”.  

(It's "Chambers", not "Chanbers".)

Update:  June 22

Anderson Cooper has a report and video of his interview with Chambers Friday June 21 here.  AC360 will provide a full text transcript soon of the full interview.

Update: June 23

Sean Sala has a blog post reporting that Chambers's activity was a publicity stunt and that his group will resurface as "Reduce Fear".   He reports said that Chambers said "Gays are broken", link here

Wednesday, June 19, 2013

HUD reports landlords aloof about same-sex couples; Idaho GOP wants to repeal local non-discrimination ordinances

HUD (the Department of Housing and Urban Development) is reporting a disturbing study on the responses of landlords to same-sex couples to email campaigns when compared to straight couples.
The HUD report  (several authors) is here

The Advocate also has a story about the study by Trudy Ring, link (website url) here. 

Log Cabin Republicans (L:CR) has a disturbing story about an effort by the Idaho GOP to have the state legislature pass a law voiding all local non-discrimination ordinances, link here

A group called Gay Home Stays (link)  has also publicized the report about the housing problem.
I did not experience discrimination when renting alone at any time. 

Tuesday, June 18, 2013

National Science Foundation in Arlington VA honors LGBT Pride Month; recognize Alan Turing

The National Science Foundation in the Ballston area of Arlington VA has an exhibit for LGBT Pride along the upper level indoor walkway that leads from the Mall to the Metro. 

The mural includes a slide show that includes photos (black and white) from Stonewall, Harvey Milk’s time, and early gay history.

 There is  also a poster, “Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender Pride Month: LGBT Equality: How we got here from there”., a talk by Ron Buckmire, on June 27.  I’m not sure if it is reserved only for NSF employees.
There’s also homage to Alan Turing, without whom WWII might not have been won, and Frank Kameny. 

Monday, June 17, 2013

Baltimore Pride Fest has some creative exhibitors this year

Baltimore’s Pride Festival was held in Druid Hill Park as usual, and seemed a bit smaller and “earthier” this year.  In cloudy weather, with a few sprinkles, the total crowd was a little smaller, and I found parking close-in along the lake. 
There was a large crowd for a stage rock performance, and there was another stage for the drag shows on the lake, giving a “Great Gatsby” look.
What was interesting this year was the booths.  Of course, “Maryland Gay Wedding” was there. 
The Baltimore Police Department had a hiring poster.
But the most interesting book came from a group called “Be More Ethical”, with website here  actually from the Baltimore Ethical Society.  (In the 1970's, I attended an "Ethical Culture" service in Manhattan with a friend on a Sunday morning.)  There was a poster of “Ten Commandments”, which start with altruism (as number 1) and include critical thinking and empathy (there can be some logical confllicts). 
My “altruism” would be tested as I left.  As I got into my Ford Focus by the lake, an overweight African American woman waddled by and begged for a ride to her car.  I never pick up “hitchhikers” and so technically this was a no-no.  It was rather obvious she was having trouble walking because of Type 2 diabetes and foot neuropathy.  I gave the rise, although the front seat was a mess, and I was not prepared for a sudden call for “radical hospitality”.  I’ll leave the existential comments for another post.

Perhaps I owed some karma.  A while earlier, I had been lucky to avoid an accident in a traffic mess trying to get to I-83, past the Baltimore Symphony, which needed police to direct traffic, badly.  A young woman almost stepped in front of me.  There was an incident like that in Arlington in the early fall of 2012, when some teenager were walking and crowding a sidewalk.  One stumbled into Lee Highway.  I had already slowed instinctively because I recognized the teen from a local church.  

Maybe older drivers are safer. and see the hidden hazards sooner.  

There is a rumor that the Supreme Court is likely to hand down a ruling on DOMA and/or Prop 8 today or tomorrow.   Stay tuned. 


Sunday, June 16, 2013

"Charm City" holds Gay Pride Parade,High Heels Race, Block Party, amid criticisms from past

Baltimore, “The Charm City”, held its Gay Pride parade and Block Party Saturday, June 15 (a date that in my distant past always sounded like the last day of school).  

Amid public criticisms of the clutter and possible past  underage drinking (which is very hard to stop, given the prevalence of fake id's), there were more uniformed police officers there this time than before, even inside the Hippo afterward.  There was no  outdoor dance pavilion t the end of Eager Street.

I actually went down Charles Street to the Tapas Bistro and to the Charles Street cinema and came back about 9.

The Hippo was interesting.  In the back room, in karaoke, someone sung “I was born that way.”  The dance floor was hopping early, by 10 PM.

Not so many people distracted by cell phones.  The Orioles had lost late that afternoon.

At the very end of the parade, there was a High Heels Race at  the  corner of Charles and Eager.

It is true that during the Block Party, the street space is very crowded.  There are barricades, which make it hard to get around to the direct dance floor entry for the Hippo.

Note: Millionaire recently asked a question about identifying the "Charm City". 

Thursday, June 13, 2013

Student kicked out of college for being lesbian forced to pay to transfer credits

Here’s a little story to recall my own William and Mary expulsion in 1961, when I lost a chemistry scholarship
A student, Danielle Powell, at Grace University in Omaha NE was kicked out in 2012 for being a lesbian, and forced to repay $6300 to have credits transferred.  The Huffington Post has a story here
News OK (from Oklahoma) had some “libertarianesque” comments, not too nice though, here.
The story sounds rather shocking, that it would happen after “don’t ask don’t tell” was repealed.
This calls to mind the practice, when I was coming of age, that some many colleges were sex specific.  And, in the 1960s,  girls dorms had curfews, but men’s did not.  (But men had to worry about the draft.)

Wednesday, June 12, 2013

Russian Duma passes its version of "COPA" prohibiting making gay content available to minors. What about the open web?

The Washington Post, in a story by Nataliya Vasilyeva and Mansur Mirovaley, reports  (p. A10) that the Russian Duma house has passed, almost unaminously, a bill prohibiting the provision of information about homosexuality to minors. The link for the story is here

That would be obviously unconstitutional in the United States because of the First Amendment.
Would that mean that all gay-oriented websites would be banned?  That’s already the law in Singapore, although it seems like it isn’t enforced much.   

What if the operator of a blog with information of gay issues traveled to Russia?   Could he or she be detained until he removed everything from the Internet?

Russia is also reported to be considering banning adoption of Russian children from any countries that accept gay marriage.  Will they really take care of all their own orphans?  

It does not appear that any of my sites are blocked in Russia, given analytics.  They may well be blocked in China.  They don’t’ seem to be blocked in the Middle East (unless it’s rich Saudi’s who peek around the firewalls). 

I have thought about visiting St. Petersburg later this year, but would have to consider any “risks” very carefully.

The motive for the law seems to be related to Russia’s low birthrate.  Putin has had “conception days”.  The Russians fear that information about homosexuality will make “marginal” people less interested in having children and families.   That’s the old “waverer” theory.

Gay sex, however, has not been outlawed in Russia since 1993, despite the anti-gay bias in much of the society.  

The Russian law bears some superficial resemblance to the US "Child Online Protection Act" or COPA, which was struck down as constitutional in 2007.  I have a separate blog for that (see my Blogger profile).  

Sunday, June 09, 2013

CIA has booth at LGBT Pride Festival in Washington; Gay Men's Chorus gives rousing stage show

LGBT Pride festival on Pennsylvania Avenue in Washington DC today (June 9, 2013) was typical, but with some new booths, such as two Baptist churches, and most notably , the CIA.
I spoke to a young woman representing the agency and asked about the possible indirect effect of the now repealed “Don’t Ask Don’t Tell” policy for gays in the military when it was in effect.  What would happen if in a same-sex couple one person had been in the military, and one was a civilian CIA employee?  Apparently this had happened.  She said that until 1996, people found to e LGBT could be dismissed from employment.  Recall, President Clinton had issued an executive order in 1995 declaring that sexual orientation should not be used as a reason to deny security clearances to civilian employees anywhere.
In fact, back on Scott Peck’s radio program in early 1993, Frank Kameny had said that the security clearance issue for gay civilian employees (outside the uniformed military) had started to improve rapidly (out of practical necessity) during the Persian Gulf War of 1990-1991. During the George H W. Bush administration (remember, the elder Bush had been a CIA director),  the security clearance issue improved considerably.  Now, when I moved back to the DC area from Dallas in 1988, I wondered about this, and interviewed for a job with a contractor serving the State Department (Mitchell Systems, on NY Avenue then) and would have gotten the job.  I decided not to run the security clearance gauntlet, given my history.  I went with an offshoot of Blue Cross that now belongs to Lewin.

Scott Peck's 1993 radio program had presented a transgendered military Naval Intelligence officer who transferred to the same job as a civilian in Naval Intelligence after she "told".  But this was civilian employment in DOD, not the CIA.  The rules could have been different then.  
I have some more remarks on the International Issues blog about the CIA “virtual visit” today.

The AARP had a booth (I don’t recall that before).  This time, I didn't see a Nationals' or MLB booth, but maybe I just missed it.  
The Washington DC Gay Men’s Chorus was performing on stage (“Boys will Be Boys!”) when I was there.

Food lines were very long, as was the lone to get into the beer garden.  I went on to the Landmark Theater. 
About 4 PM, under threat of rain (which didn’t materialize).  In the beer line, there was someone I know whom I call “The Kid” who looks and talks like “Days of our Lives” character Will.  And there is a Sonny.  ‘You know who you are.”

Saturday, June 08, 2013

Capital Pride Parade in Washington DC seems to be the longest ever

The Capital Pride Parade in Washington DC on Saturday, June 9, 2013., seemed to be the largest and longest ever.  It marched from Dupont Circle to 14th  and P Streets (almost to Logan Circle) and then turned north and returned on R Street.  The entire precession took about two and one half hours. 

The one political issue noticeable on some of the floats was ENDA, and the failure of Obama yet to sign an executive order forbidding discrimination in federal contracting,, which I presume is getting rare.

I saw one woman with a back T-shirt sign that read "Down with communism", and another with a T-shirt reading "Russia: Free expression, not repression".  

People gathered on balconies of many new condo buildings along the routes.  

The block party at JR’s started earlier than usual.  I dropped my draft beer, or it slid off, when I tried to check my cell phone for the Nationals score.  “They” lost to the old Senators (now the Minnesota Twins), 4-3; it’s odd that there was a full ballpark on the same day and at the same time as the Pride March.

Cell phone Internet service from Verizon got spotty; everyone noticed that, maybe from overloading.  The weather was perfect; the tropical storm had cleared out completely and the sky was completely clear, temperature about 75, very little wind. 

I went into McDonald's on 17th St for dessert (after a salad meal near 14th Street, testing my new dentures). My souvenir submarine hat (from my 1993 submarine visit when I was starting reseearcg ib my first DADT book) attracted attention.  We had a nice conversation with some men from Argentina, Brazil and Wales;  no one spoke with even the slightest accent.  The well-off in Buenos Aries and Sao Paolo live like us, but the divide between rich and poor (the real South America) is more striking.

As usual, I went to the Cobalt for the Pride dance.  This is the first year with the 3rd floor dance floor expanded by the renovation last fall, with a bar area that looks like a similar one in a hotel I stayed in in San Sebastian, Spain in 20091.  The dancing gets started much earlier on Pride Saturday night, and gets rather aggressive.  

Wednesday, June 05, 2013

CNN reports substantial transgender presence in US military on Piers Morgan

On Tuesday night, June 4, 2013, I heard a comment on Piers Morgan CNN by  a guest that there were a  substantial number of transgendered personnel in uniform, including officers, in the United States military.
This sounds improbable, and the topic may have come up in conjunction with the Bradley Manning trial at Ft. Meade (in conjunction with Wikileaks and Julian Assange), or because of the renewed focus on sexual harassment of females by males in the military.  There are proposals in Congress to take prosecutorial discretion for sexual assaults in the military away from commanders to avoid conflict-of-interest.
In 1993, when Scott Peck (the son of a Marine Corps officer) hosted a radio show during the debate on Bill Clinton’s proposal to lift the military ban, there was a transgendered guest who had been forced to leave the Navy after fifteen years, but who kept essentially the same job in Naval intelligence as a civilian, just after the Persian Gulf War.
During that period, Fran Kameny also appeared on the Sunday night radio show and discussed the rapidly improving (then) picture in security clearances for civilian employees.  

Picture: NSA grounds. 2008

Update: June 7

Kristin Beck, former Navy Seal and mow M-F transgender, appeared on CNN tonight on AC360 and apparently will appear Monday.

Saturday, June 01, 2013

NBC examines the myths of "gay affluence"; Capital Pride approaches

Barbara Raab, senior producer of NBC news, has an interesting story about the “myths” of gay affluence.
Since the 1980s, or particularly in the 1990s, there has been a common belief that, despite unfavorable tax treatment and disadvantages in combining income, gays have more disposable income because they have fewer responsibilities for children.
But that is likely to be offset by increasing responsibilities for eldercare.

And more families, as time goes by, have same-sex couples as parents.
In the past, white gay males have indeed been more affluent than gay females or any gay people of color.  

While “married men” earn more than singles, as a whole, because “they have to”., there are so many exceptions and individual variations as to make the statistics rather meaningless.
But employers, especially in salaried exempt positions, sometimes took advantage of the idea of getting single people “for a discount” and expecting more sacrifice from them for the benefit of “families with children”.  But, again, this is widely variable.  In some places, everyone is very accountable strictly for his own work.
The NBC link is here

I visited Town DC last night; hadn’t been on a Friday night  (18+)t for a long time;  it seems now that the public has to get there before 9 PM to take advantage of Bear Happy Hour;  admittance is closed until 10.  This time, got a front seat for the “show”, but I only tip when I see some creativity in the dance numbers.  Audience participation is always more interesting.  Crowd built up healthfully upstairs quickly after 11. 

I wonder if the stage can hold a grand piano.  But the Club-930 is nearby if not 
Here’s a question.  Are tattoos (“body art”) more popular now?   It seems so, at least slightly. I grew up in conservative times and always saw them is inherently disfiguring.    Last week, Cobalt-DC used an “illustrated man” as cover art for an online ad for an event.  Not sure that this would work, at least from a viewpoint of attracting guests.  
Pride DC’s main event takes place next weekend.   Weather may be unsettled, according to 10 day forecast.  And it will be so tomorrow, but settle down for the week.  The violent storms in the Midwest seem to be calming down as the system moves East’; keep your fingers crossed. 
DC had to cope with heat-driven or manhole power outages in the Logan Circle, U-Street area yesterday, but all was OK by 8 PM or so. 

Update: June 4

The Center for American Progress reports all this in "A broken bargain for GLBT workeres" here.  It's interesting that the list of disparities doesn't mention the likelihood that in salaried environments, :LGBT workers may have to "work for free" more often.  I did sometimes.